Teenage relationships

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By Rilwan Abdullahi

understanding teenage relationships

Friendships, romantic relationships, family, instructors, and coworkers all have a big impact on our mental health and well-being. Positive connections can give us a sense of being respected and cared for if they are healthy.

Romantic relationships

It’s tough to comprehend the significance of a romantic connection in a young person’s life.

Adolescent romantic relationships are frequently rejected as ‘puppy love,’ inconsequential, or not taken seriously because they are often short-lived and appear unstable.

It’s becoming increasingly obvious that young people’s love relationships deserve far more attention than they’ve received in the past. They play a vital role in the daily lives of young people, influencing their current mental health, ongoing growth, and future love relationships.

Why is it important to consider the impact of romantic relationships on the lives of young people?

In adolescence, romantic relationships are a common topic of discussion, a major source of obsession and rumination, and a major source of powerful emotions.

Many of their powerful feelings, both positive and negative (e.g., excitement, happiness), are attributed to romantic relationships and experiences, whether real, potential, or fantasized, according to young people (e.g. jealousy, anger, distress). It is impossible to avoid the bad emotions that come with love relationships simply by not being involved in one.

Even when they are unmarried, young people (especially girls) spend a lot of time thinking about and talking about romantic relationships, whether it is about past relationships or potential future relationships. And, especially in early adolescence, young individuals who are not in a romantic relationship frequently express how difficult it is not to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Romantic connections have a huge impact on a young person’s continuous emotional and social development, in addition to having a substantial impact on their day-to-day existence. They also build the groundwork for adult love connections.

While it is true that young people’s romantic relationships are often shorter in duration and include less closeness, attachment, and commitment than adult relationships, they nonetheless play a significant role in adolescents’ lives.

The impacts of a romantic relationship

It’s impossible to say if romantic connections are ‘good’ or ‘bad’ for adolescent growth. Many of the advantages and risks of adolescent romantic participation coexist. Improved self-esteem, popularity, and social status, social competence, autonomy/independence, greater emotions of self-worth, and protection from social anxiety are some of the positive consequences.

Substance abuse, academic difficulties, stress, and involvement in delinquent behavior (especially in relation to early sexual and romantic experiences), sexual health risks and unplanned pregnancy, the risk of experiencing “dating violence” or “partner violence,” and an increased vulnerability to experiencing depressive symptoms are all possible negative outcomes (particularly for girls, and particularly following break-ups).

Supporting a young person during a relationship break up

Some things to consider:

  • Make no assumptions about the value of a relationship or the consequences of a breakup.
  • Don’t ignore the pain of a relationship breakup; young individuals are more likely to experience a depressive episode following a breakup.
  • Make no conclusions about the importance of a connection based on its duration or age.
  • Be aware of the potential impact of a romantic relationship on existing friendships and/or family relationships.
  • Don’t discount their anguish or assume they’ll ‘get over it with time.’ They may be embarrassed or ashamed of requesting help for a problem they believe they should be able to solve on their own; if your response encourages this idea, it can be very harmful.
  • Discuss what kind of coping mechanisms are appropriate and unsuitable for dealing with tough emotions (e.g., stalking behaviour, cyber-bullying; see dealing with relationship break-ups)

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